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Help! How do I cope with this change?

By buttercup2012 on Mon, 02-13-12, 10:08

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I am new to support groups or anything like this but I am so alone, lost and feel like I am losing my mind I need somewhere to turn for support.

I have just moved to a new city with my husband, thankfully my employer instead of accepting my 2 week notice asked me to stay on and continue to work for them from home. It was a miracle and I am 100% grateful but the change is starting to get to me. While my company is in a different state than I am now I still talk to the same people all day but I am alone in my home office without actualy human contact, my husband works constantly leaving early in the morning and returning late. We have one car at the moment so I am also stuck in the house without a way to get out and and try to socialize. My husband has friends and family here, most of whom I never met, I left my entire support system behind, friends family and co workers, I have no one to talk to or ask for help. My husband has is own inner demons he is fighting and cannot help or listen to my crys for help.

I am lonely and starting to doubt myself, my ability to do a good job at work because I am so isolated? How do I handle this change? What tips are there to keep from going insane and be confident, happy and productive?

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By KellieMontgomeryLMFT on Mon, 02-13-12, 11:20

I do understand this situation...while its wonderful to be allowed to work from home and to be given this employment opportunity you do sound isolated. Its very important to start connecting with people, whether that is through taking the bus to yoga classes after work, working at a coffee shop or library, its a good idea to start thinking how to get creative...its important to be social, particularly when your husband can not be supportive right now. Are there days when you can take your husband to work and pick him up so that you have the car? I love the website meetup.com for finding new things to do and groups according to your hobbies. Its also a very good idea to keep up with your loved ones by phone, skype, email or facebook...those ties are so important to maintain. Try looking into different options for transportation (i.e. train, bus, dropping the hubby at work and taking the car)..take your computer with you where you go and work different places, whether that be a coffee shop or the library. Start thinking about the options you have right now- there's always more than we think!

Warmly,
Kellie Montgomery, LMFT

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